Learn the signs of an overtired baby and how to help calm your overtired baby so you can get her to sleep. We also have ways to break the overtired cycle so you can avoid an overtired baby in the future
One of the things I tried to avoid the most with my newborn baby was letting her get overtired. It’s probably one of the most common sleep problems new parents face.
Overtired babies can be incredibly hard to calm down and to get to sleep. Overtired babies also have a harder time staying asleep once they are able to finally settle down. It sounds so contradictory, but overtired babies simply won’t sleep well.
And if all that isn’t enough, overtired babies often don’t eat well, because they are too tired to feed. When your baby isn’t eating well because she is too tired, and isn’t sleeping well because she is too tired, it makes life pretty difficult for new parents of newborn babies!
Getting an overtired baby to sleep and sleep through the night can be one of the hardest parts of being a new mom. And that over tiredness comes a lot quicker than you might think!
Babies have really short wake windows, so once they are awake for too long, they can quickly move into the overtired phase. Once they are overtired, it becomes much harder for them to fall asleep on their own or even with assistance.
This is why I created my Baby sleep schedule cheat sheets! After devouring multiple sleep books and becoming a baby and toddler sleep consultant I wanted an easy guide other parents could follow when putting their babies on a routine/schedule.
The cheat sheets give you exact schedules you can follow including wake times, nap length, and how to know when to make a transition.
How To Know if Baby is Overtired?
There are a few different hints that babies give us when they are getting tired or overtired. Look for these baby sleep cues to know if your baby is past his max and needs to be put down for a nap ASAP!
1. They are past their optimal wake time: Babies are only able to stay awake and happy for a limited time depending on their age. For example, if your baby has been up for 2.5 hours and her wake window is 1 hour 45 minutes, then yes, she is likely exhausted!
Paying attention to your baby’s wake times will really help prevent over tiredness in the first place.
2. Zoning out: Your baby may start to avoid eye contact or stare off into the distance. This is a sign that they don’t want to play anymore and they want to sleep.
3. Baby will start to rub her eyes or face: Some babies will also tug on their ears when they’re tired.
4. Clenched fists. Some babies will clench their fists or keep them closed.
5. Clingy: Baby will be very clingy to mom, dad, or another caregiver, making it harder to be put down.
6. Fussy: Baby is fussier than normal. Perhaps your overtired baby won’t stop crying or is crying loudly.
7. Short Naps: Baby could be overtired if she wakes up early from her nap or shortly after being put down for bedtime. It might sound counterproductive, but overtired babies will often wake up screaming after sleeping for about 20 to 30 minutes. Overtired babies can have a hard time getting to sleep and staying asleep.
How do You Settle An Overtired Baby?
There are ways to break the overtired cycle though! Get your overtired baby to sleep with these tips and then follow their wake times to make sure you never have an overtired baby again!
Once your baby has reached her overtired limit, it’s time to get her to sleep ASAP—however you can!
When you have a predictable routine and follow good sleep habits, your baby can learn to fall asleep independently. Until these sleep patterns are established; however, it will be really hard for baby to do so on her own, especially if she’s overtired. Learn how to sleep train your baby and set up those habits now.
Here are different things you can do to help settle your overtired baby and get her to sleep. These are similar to the 5 S’s.
Swaddling your baby can help soothe her. Swaddling provides a similar environment as the womb and can help your baby feel safe and cozy. Overtired babies may seem to hate being swaddled initially, but can eventually settle after being swaddled.
Another reason to swaddle an overtired baby is that it can help her stay asleep. Swaddling helps prevent baby from startling awake and can help your baby sleep longer.
Make sure to follow the recommendations on when to stop swaddling your baby.
Hold Baby On Her Side or Stomach
Holding your baby on her side or stomach against your chest or torso can calm her. Hold her like this to help calm her down. (Make sure to not put baby in the crib like this though. Aalways place baby on her back when sleeping in the crib or bassinet).
Use white noise from a sound machine to help soothe an overtired baby. Babies are used to the loud noises of the womb, so silence can be deafening to them.
When using white noise, make sure it’s continuous noise and won’t turn off in the middle of baby’s sleep. Basic swooshing noises are better than the sound of rain or heartbeats. This is my favorite sound machine, because it plugs in and stays on all night. The whirring sound helps me and my baby sleep amazingly!
You can use movement to get an overtired baby to settle down. We used a swing frequently for my little girl and it worked wonders. You can also try holding your baby close to your body on her side or stomach and swinging her back and forth.
Another technique taken from the Baby Whisperer is the shush pat.
Put your baby in her crib or bassinet and gently roll her to her side. Hold her on her side and gently pat her bottom for several minutes while making a shhhh sound. As your baby settles to sleep, you can try rolling her to her back so she can continue to sleep.
Use A Pacifier
Babies have a natural inclination to want to suck. Providing your baby with a pacifier can help her calm down and fall asleep. We used to hold the pacifier in my daughter’s mouth so it wouldn’t fall out until she fell into a deeper sleep.
Offer Breast or Bottle
We tried to follow an eat play sleep routine so our baby wasn’t fed to sleep often, but sometimes it’s necessary. If your baby gets too overtired, you can try feeding your baby to sleep. Sucking on the breast or bottle can help calm baby and help her fall asleep.
How to Break the Cycle of An Overtired Baby
When babies are consistently overtired and not getting the recommended sleep that they need, it can start to cause cognitive functioning and other health issues.
Make sure your baby is getting their daily sleep amount and that you are following the recommended wake times for their age.
As you consistently get baby to sleep within their wake windows, they will start to get out of their sleep debt and you’ll break the overtired cycle! Grab my cheat sheets if you’re unsure how to do this!
Should I Let My Overtired Baby Cry It Out?
Once your baby gets to the overtired phase, it can be really hard for her to fall asleep on her own. Leaving your baby to cry it out until she falls asleep will likely cause her to get even more tired and upset.
I would help your baby get to sleep when she is overtired using the methods above. Once your baby is on a regular sleep routine and you are following her wake times, you can work on getting your baby to sleep independently.
One thing I found really helpful when I was trying to establish healthy sleep habits and balancing independent sleep was reading about the sleep hierarchy from The Babywise Mom.
You can focus on small goals at a time until you reach the goal of your baby sleeping in her crib during nap time.
Remember that babies are tiny, little beings and it takes time and practice for them to learn how to sleep. Leaving a baby to cry it out to fall asleep won’t help her learn those independent sleep habits any sooner.
Should I Wake an Overtired Baby to Feed?
We usually woke our baby from her naps to keep her from going too long between feeds and to keep her from oversleeping during the day.
That being said, we tried to put her down before she became overtired. If a baby was especially overtired, I would let her sleep a little longer to help make up for her sleep debt. You can get back on her sleep schedule once baby is well rested.
Having an overtired baby is part of having a baby. Life happens and sometimes we lose track of time or forget that our babies need a nap. Get your baby down however you can when you realize they are reaching their overtired point and you can get back on track later!